Modern Dating Trends: Thera-Posing and Premature Intimacy
I’ve recently read an article posted in Psychology Today revealing six dating trends we can expect in 2024, and it’s true. While these trends are challenging they also offer opportunities for growth and better relationships. Let’s dive into two of these trends: Thera-Posing and Premature Intimacy (PMI), and see how we can navigate them positively.
Thera-Posing: Using Therapy Terms Wisely
Thera-posing happens when we misuse therapeutic language in dating, like calling someone a "narcissist" without really understanding the term. It's easy to fall into this trap, especially with so much mental health info out there. However, misusing these terms can cause misunderstandings.
How to Steer Clear of Thera-Posing:
Learn the Lingo: Get to know what these terms really mean before using them.
Keep It Simple: Use everyday language to describe feelings and actions.
Seek Advice: If in doubt, consult a mental health professional.
Premature Intimacy (PMI): Pacing Personal Sharing
Premature Intimacy is all about sharing too much too soon. We've all been there—caught up in the excitement of a new connection and spilling our life story on the first date. But oversharing can overwhelm your date and create discomfort.
How to Balance Sharing:
Go Slow: Share personal details gradually as you get to know each other.
Read the Room: Pay attention to your date’s comfort levels.
Build a Foundation: Focus on common interests and respect before diving into deeper topics.
Turning Challenges into Opportunities
Both Thera-Posing and PMI are common pitfalls, but they’re also chances to improve how we communicate and connect. By being mindful of our language and pacing our sharing, we can build stronger, more meaningful relationships.
Remember, dating is a journey. Stay curious, stay intentional, and enjoy the ride!